Are you in a long term relationship that has had its once so passionate flame die out? Or do you wish to throw the usual routine out the window and get those sheets just a little dirtier? Well then you are in luck my friend. I recently shuffled through my filing cabinet and found my secret folder labeled "Sex Essentials" and decided that I should share some of my gathered information. So here I am giving you simple ways to spice "IT" up.

Dirty Talk - Now I have heard that this technique is very intriguing to both men and women. Some like it real dirty while others like it more sexy and subtle. Not only are you connecting sexually, your partner will learn the things that you like to hear. So feel your partner out to see what would be most effective for them.

Sexting - Sexting (Sex Texting) can be really fun and exciting. It’s a complete tease for the other person. Imagine being at work and getting a dirty little text message. I personally know many men that find this extremely exciting. If the roles were reversed, imagine being teased like that and still having 5 hours until you can clock out. This will definitely raise your blood pressure and build the sexual tension throughout the day. However, keep it short and simple. Don't give away too much, keep it short to increase the tease, and remember to keep it sexy and sweet.

Tasty delights - Utilizing foods in the act are a great way to really experience and enjoy foreplay. Some of the items that come to mind are chocolate syrup, ice to stimulate the nerves in your body, and whipped cream. Ladies and gentleman, this is a great way for you to take control during foreplay. You can use it on yourself or on your partner as well. You decide. I'm sure you’ll love it either way.Now I hope these simple tips will help spice things up between you and your lover. Be confident, be sexy, and don’t be afraid to let loose. And remember, always use a condom.

If you have any questions, comments, or concerns, you can email Christie@youlovemystylemag.com. I would love to hear from you.